USA Wedding Etiquette FAQs

If the groom’s parents are not married to each other and there are 2 sets of parents, who pays for the rehearsal dinner? what should the father and stepmother of the groom pay for?

Given that it is customary for both the biological father and the mother of the groom to foot the bill for the rehearsal dinner, neither party can absolve themselves of responsibility in this scenario. Regardless of whether or not the biological parents are together, the man who gave birth to the groom is still considered the groom’s father, and the woman who gave birth to the groom is still considered the groom’s mother. Who is in a position to contribute is the question at hand. Both sets of parents need to have a conversation among themselves about this topic and determine who can contribute and how much they can provide. It’s possible that one of the couples will be able to give more monetarily than the others. It’s possible that the other couple will be able to provide more of their time to assist in the organising of the event. I strongly recommend that you address this issue one-on-one with each pair of parents, and if necessary, you can then play the role of the mediator (middlewoman). If for any reason they are unable to give much monetarily, be sure to reassure them that they need not feel bad about it. You should assist them in developing a budget. They will feel relieved and get off to a fantastic start as a result of this. If you work together with the other couple, you should be able to come up with a plan for a fantastic rehearsal dinner. I really hope that this helps.

What exactly are the groom’s parents expected to pay for in a wedding? I am aware that the rehearsal dinner is one area, but have been told the groom’s parents are also supposed to pay for the rental of the tuxedos.

I have compiled a list of the aspects of a wedding that, according to custom, neither the bride nor her family pays for. Traditionally, the following costs should be covered by the groom, his family, or other members of his party:

  1. Rehearsal Dinner (paid for by groom’s family) 
  2. Bride’s Bouquet (paid for by groom)
  3. Mother’s Corsages (paid for by groom)
  4. Boutonnieres for the groom, groomsmen, and ushers (paid for by groom)
  5. Marriage License (groom pays)
  6. Officiant Fee (groom pays)
  7. Groom’s Cake (paid for by groom’s family)
  8. Formal attire for best man, groomsmen, and ushers (they each traditionally should pay for their own)
  9. Gloves/Ties/Ascots for Attendants (groom pays)
  10. Father of Groom Formal Wear (Groom’s family pays)
  11. The Limousine Services (groom pays)
  12. Honeymoon Arrangements (groom pays) I hope this helps you.

I have been together with my husband-to-be for 6 years. We have lived together in that time and have 2 children together. Needless to say, we already have an established home. I’m looking for an appropriate way to ask/tell my invited guests that we would prefer money for the honeymoon instead of gift items that we probably already have in our home. Any suggestions?

Hello, Thank you for your query. When it comes to the subject of presents, I feel obligated to remind readers that giving gifts is never required for attending a wedding. However, situations like yours are rather frequent. The vast majority of people dislike having the impression that they are being told what to donate, yet there is a non-confrontational method to approach this topic. You have the option of including the following on your invitations: “It is not required to provide gifts. At the reception, there will be a money tree set up for any of you who would want to make a donation for our honeymoon. We have done this for your convenience.” For as long as I can remember, one of the most common family traditions has been to use a traditional money tree. It is really uncommon now, but I believe that it will eventually make a comeback. A lot of couples will also present money gift mailboxes for their guests, but they are not as noticeable as a tree that is covered with money that has been pinned to its branches. Guests are implicitly encouraged to donate monetary presents via the use of a money tree, which does not need any spoken request. It’s often more fruitful than the so-called “money dance” that’s all the rage these days. I really hope that this information is useful to you, and I wish you the very best.

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